An Open Letter to Mr. Kevin Shrum:

You wrote a somewhat concerning letter of your own and published it. Unfortunately, your misunderstanding of, well frankly everything, is astounding. Seemingly the only thing you actually got right in your letter was the first sentence, which demonstrated that you realize that the Supreme Court ruling in question did have something to do with marriage.

Nothing has changed for Christians. Some of you are still wrong, and judging by the reaction from your community most of you will continue to be wrong until your generation dies out. We can live with that.

You claim that we don’t understand that you have to obey laws like the rest of us most of the time, the obvious exceptions being written in the tax code which is frustrating to all parties and makes me extremely glad that Rand Paul took a stand by destroying it with a chainsaw.

As for there being ‘rare’ times when Christians attempt to override the very amendment that you cite in your letter, you may want to check with the American Civil Liberties Union on that, as well as realize that Christians like yourself are the very reason it was the Supreme Court that had to make this decision; you wouldn’t allow it on the state level and we were sick of your whiny biblical bullshit.

You also seem to think that we don’t understand what you believe. We do. We know that you believe being gay is a choice and we know that you believe we’re evil for making that “choice”. You are wrong on both counts.

It’s also deeply concerning to me that you disagree that marriage is about love. Many people who sound like you go a step farther and name procreation as the point of marriage, but we don’t typically refuse elderly couples or couples with fertility issues the right to marry. I wonder where you stand on this.

Marriage is a Pagan tradition. This is well documented and you should know this if you’re going to be making public statements on the subject. Yes, it is meant to be about love, although it was altered when it was adopted by your religion to be about property, namely, women as property. I suspect that this is not what you mean when you talk about marriage being “a reflection of god’s character” Also, so many Christians believe that “god is love”, so doesn’t it amount to the same thing?

I don’t know what you mean by “peaceful civil disobedience” unless you’re referring to standing in front of a church trying to marry a gay couple the way people once stood in front of schools to try to prevent desegregation. It seems fitting with the character of Christianity that you’re presenting in your letter but I hope that isn’t what you mean, as there are plenty of your fellow Christians who will be ashamed of you for that.

You also said “Christians may face persecution as a result”. Please define persecution in a way that includes Christians being forced to live in a country with married gay people but does not include those gay people not being allowed to marry.

You’re welcome for your “lesson in being unashamed” but somehow I think you’ve taken it wrong. Being unashamed means being secure in who you are and believing that you are worthy of love. It does not mean being so insecure and so worried that your god will be unable to deal with us after we supposedly meet it that you feel that you have to do his work for him by putting us through hell while we’re alive.

You may not be angry, but I assure you that those people who identify with you and who are attempting to liken us to child molesters and rapists certainly are. Many of them have been angry enough to deface churches and call for outright genocide of our community. I hope you’ll let us know when there’s a call for expelling all Christians from the country or an attempt to write a law ordering their executions. It may have been a desperate attempt and would never have come to pass, but let’s not forget that someone in your community who thinks the way you do still did attempt to create that law, and it’s happened more than once.

I hope the church wakes up to see the fruits of their biblical heritage, because no decent person would stay, knowing the full extent of what you’ve done over the past two millennia. You call the church a “sleeping giant”. Are you aware that you’re losing members each and every day, specifically because of this rhetoric?

You obviously don’t understand us, but don’t deceive yourself by thinking that we don’t know you and people like you. You’re afraid of change. You’ve never known love, because the only thing you have any compassion for is something you don’t even know for sure exists. I’m sure you get satisfaction out of that, but compared to the relationship you could have with another human being which is based on love, empathy, understanding, and the betterment of your life if not mankind, it’s crushingly empty.

Your letter was called a “declaration of war” by a writer at The New Civil Rights Movement, where I read it. I think the writer was wrong. This was no declaration of war. It was a cry for help. You may be loveless, but that doesn’t mean that you’re deserving of compassion, and I hope that you get that, if for no other reason than because you’re my fellow human being.

I don’t know where your life has been or where it’s headed. Only you know that. I just hope that you get the most out of it and that you use it for the betterment of humanity, and from this letter I gather that this is not your intention. I believe that you’re better than this.

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